For A Reason

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It all started a couple weeks ago.  I had a real conversation with someone who actually believes in the same things I do – someone who values old school beliefs and finds peace in his universe, as well as  understands how we manifest our lives.  The conversation flowed for almost 6 hours, and by the end, I felt immense joy.  We shared so many thoughts. Those first couple days were truly amazing.  There were no uncomfortable silences.  The laughs flowed as easily as the feelings that carried them.  He was so beautiful to me.  However, after just a few days, reality forced its way in, and I realized this would not last forever.

I know many of us have been here.  We believe we have met our soul mate and then, bam, something happens and everything falls apart.  Of course, I cried.  I wondered why this happened to me and again started to doubt that I would find someone who actually understood me.  However, in my positivity practice, I came back to the here and now and thought about what really was going on in my universe.  I reminded myself that we don’t meet people by chance.

 “People come into your life for a Reason, a Season or a Lifetime.  When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person.  When someone comes into your life for a Reason, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.  They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually.  They may seem like a godsend and they are.  They are there for the reason you need them to be.  Then without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.  Sometimes they die, sometimes they walk away.  Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.  What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done.  The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.  Some people come into your life for a Season because your turn has come to share, grow and learn.  They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.  They may teach you something you have never done.  They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.  Believe it, it is real but only for a season.  Lifetime relationships teach you the lifetime lessons, things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.  Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.” Author Unknown

Take a look at your relationships past and present.  Being hard on yourself about what could have-would have-should have been is really counterproductive.  Instead realize, those connections are what they are and they have purpose!  Stop worrying about the future and enjoy the here and now.  Enjoy what you learn from the relationships you have whether they last a day, a month or a lifetime.  The future is always unknown; we can only create the present… that is our gift.  Gratitude and love produce more gratitude and love in your life, and from that place, your desires come true.

I did not let fear take me away from someone I felt so connected to. I have spent the last couple of weeks learning more about myself and how I feel about relationships.  This introspection is important for me because I have been in a place of fear that every person would walk out of my life.  I could not truly love someone because I sought only gain.  True happiness escaped me; however, I have finally found inner peace.  I realized I can trust others, even though the relationship might be temporary.  I realized I can give someone my love because they deserve it and not because I need it.  I realized that living in the moment, enjoying each day for what it brings, truly brings happiness.  I do not believe in chance… I believe in awareness.  I am awake.