Life Change: One Tip You Need to Hear

Kellie R. Stone December 28, 2010

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As a part of my “Beautiful Woman” interviews I always ask “do you have any regrets?”. I believe for most women it’s easy to see the “errors of our ways” when it comes to the progression of our lives. However, having regrets means that you would likely change something if you could. I was thinking about how destructive that attitude can be to our life journey. Bottom line: if we changed one thing, we would change everything – even the blessings. I’ve learned that focusing change on the past is not productive and only creates unstable goals that can never be met. Truthfully, even the “errors” or mistakes we’ve made are useful and could even be catalysts for greatness. And though hard times are difficult and devastating, they are an important part of the amalgam that makes up our foundation.

Adding Sugar to the Lemons

You’ve all heard the saying “when life gives you lemons, make lemonade.” It’s a simple thing, really…

Basically, we have a responsibility to recognize potential in all of life’s situations by not labeling them as “good” or “bad”. Lemons are neither bad because they’re sour nor is sugar good because it’s sweet…

I know this is an odd thing to even consider. After all, we’ve been programed to view certain events as either good or bad; healthy or unhealthy; blissful or tragic; a success or a failure. Often we are negatively motivated to change because someone (you) laid claim to the fact that YOU did something wrong. You gained weight because YOU ate too much or didn’t exercise; you got fired because YOU didn’t perform your job well enough; you got divorced because YOU weren’t a good wife.

Do you see where I’m going with this?

We too often use our downfalls as springboards, launching pads for change. We make self-demands based on the emotional compromise from unserving choices. Reality: those so called “negative” events are not places we should be jumping from; they are merely places to note and be thankful for. On the other hand, we should not always jump from our so called “happy, good” place either. Again, it’s important to note progress and be grateful for it but not dwell there. This concept keeps us moving forward – perpetual learning, reflection, and change that’s based on the now and the future.