Kellie R. Stone
Women’s LifeLink Founder
As I sat out on my deck this morning, listening to the birds tweet and the breeze flow through my maple tree, I realized how perfect that moment was. I even felt distracted and annoyed by allowing my mind to think about writing this post. The moment was profound in the sense it gave me so much clarity about what it means to live in the now or present. I’ve been so caught up in trying to analyze the past and plan for the future that I literally have not lived my life in the moments that pass me like a speeding trucker on the highway. The good news is that I’ve stopped the cycle I lived for so long and I want to share it with you.
I’ve read hundreds of articles and books about living in the present but, somehow, I had not received the whole essence of those sacred writings. I’ve even talked about it here on the site and in my books, unknowingly that I wasn’t really practicing it. But that has changed. The difference is that I’ve seen how being aware of my chronic distraction from the present makes it stop. It’s sort of like catching yourself dip into the cookie jar one too many times and saying to yourself, “You don’t need that.”. This is not to put a guilt trip on myself, but to give a sense of guardianship over my ship. My true self doesn’t have identity in all of that garbage rolling around in my head. It’s not the past or the future either. No, she lives in the now. No matter what we do to run from that fact, we will never escape the reality of how important each moment is to the fulfillment of our dreams and purpose.
Be the Guardian
In order to watch over and direct the mind and emotions, we have to appoint our true self as a guardian. She is who you want to be in charge…trust me. Her job is to simply watch and bring awareness to the fact that the past and future are invading the precious moments of life. I’m not saying that you can never think about the past or the future, it’s just a balance of the three that culminate to create the perfect time…now. There is no other perfect time in your life or mine other than the moment you are presently in. When we look to the past to relive those times we think were so great, we can bring ourselves into depression and sadness because of what we no longer have or can do. We lived those moments when they arrived, just as we live the one we are in. On the other end, when we look too much into the future, we may get stressed or anxious for what could be or what could not. You, as a guardian, will protect the mind from going into those traps.
Now Is Here for You
If you think about this present moment and ask yourself to analyze it for quality. I bet you will find no fault in it at all. If you do, then you are dipping into the cookie jar of the past or future. In other words, try not to compare the present with any past or future time. When I was chronically ill with constant migraine headaches and other inflammation conditions, I would lay in bed and think about how much I wanted to be well, to run again…hell, to just clean my house. I would also think about how my life was before I got sick. I missed it. The combination of these times of walking away from my present caused a dark cloud to stay over my life. I began to believe I would never be whole, that my life was a sham, a mistake. How destructive those thoughts (my mind) became to a precious life…mine. This living in the now is somewhat new to me, but I feel like I’ve tiptoed around its banks for years, having glimpses here and there. The one thing I know now is that the present is always there for me. It’s always there for you. The past is past- the future is unknown. Give the present a chance to prove how beautiful life is right now.
Some Resources to Help
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This is such a great article Kellie. The mind, or should I say ego, is a wicked little thing at times isn’t it! It is only when I am in my yoga practice that I truly get the chance to get off the merry-go-round of past and future ideas and notions, beliefs and yearnings for what was or could be.
It undoubtedly takes effort and mindfulness to embrace the present moment, but when you find yourself in it, it is amazing. Sometimes I stop and think about how actions and events would feel if you imagined you had never done them or been in the situation before. Shedding those perceptions, preconceived ideas and judgements is enlightening in itself.
So while I sip my morning cup of tea in the quiet before the kids get up, I am taking your advice and being right here, right now.
xx