Inner Journey

Wow! Life has sure changed in the last year since I’ve blogged. Let’s see, I moved from Virginia Beach to San Antonio, separated from the United States Navy and became a civilian for the first time in ten years, started working towards my Bachelor‘s Degree in Fashion Management and Marketing, and hmmm… oh yeah, I made another human being! Her name is Aysen, and I couldn’t be more excited about her coming into my life.

Boundaries. This one topic has confused and annoyed more people than you can throw a stick at (including yours truly)! Ask ten people on the street and they will all give you a different version of what a healthy boundary looks like and when it should be set. But, at the end of the day, we want some clarity (or maybe it's just me?). What is this boundary stuff all about? What is the truth about boundaries?

Hello there! Welcome to your Weekly dose of Diva in its very first week here at Woman's Life Link! Every week right here, I bare it all (well, maybe not all!) and let you in on my personal and professional aha of the week. That one thing that seems to be really up, not only for me, but also for my world and all the wonderful people in it. But, before we get into things, I'd love to tell you a little more about this whole Diva thing and how it got started. You see, Diva is actually a horse. Read more...

It was two-thirty in the morning when she sent me the message. I could feel her stress and fear even though it was a digital communication. “I am tired of living a lie, a double life…I am gay,” she confessed. Her declaration did not move me, but her sadness and fear did. I felt sorry that she had not been able to truly be herself in this world without experiencing hate and ridicule from others. Individuality is at the core of our existence and the pursuit of it a path no other should ever block.

You know that feeling you get when you're watching a scary movie and the heroin is snooping in a really creepy, dark place? Well, I always say to myself or out loud, "What the hell are you doing? Why are you even going down there? Are you insane? Admit it, you've done it, too! Then I realize that there wouldn't be a story or movie unless someone does something dramatic or to risk bodily harm.

I wrote the statement "The Butterfly deserves to fly" up on my white board this morning. It was meant to be an encouragement to me to get some work done on my upcoming book, The Butterfly Payoff, and it served its purpose. As I stared up at the words, though, I realized the implied message to myself revealed a much deeper cause- one that is for us all.

Do you know who your best supporter is? Is it a friend, a lover, a family member? I have discovered that, while it is beneficial and awesome to have friends and family who cheer us on, we need to have a healthful outlook toward ourselves and our lives as well. No matter what others say we can do and accomplish, until we believe in ourselves and our potential, we won't get too far. Other people can encourage us until they are blue in the face, but not reinforcing that encouragement with personal belief in the accolades or words of faith presented causes it to fall short of the positive intention.

March marked the 110th anniversary of the birth of Theodore Seuss Geisel. He was most famously known for his work in children’s literature, both writing and illustrating. We all remember many of these stories from our childhoods. From The Cat in the Hat to Marvin K Mooney, Dr. Seuss created characters that we have loved for over 6 decades.

Spring is my favorite season. It’s the time of the year when we focus on birth, life, blossoming into the women we were meant to be. So as Kellie recently awaited the birth of her first grandchild, I await the birth of me.

Unhappy in my own skin for many years, I would wake up every day virtually paralyzed by my own fears. I would be tormented by the possibility that people would discover I was a fake; that I wasn’t whom I pretended to be. The persona I projected was this happy, fun-loving, care free, extremely funny girl who acted as though she had the world at her feet. But behind the happy mask that I wore for so many years was a deeply depressed and dependent soul, searching to be loved. I would drink to feel good about myself and suppress the pain, but after a while the numbing effects didn’t work. I became depressed and fearful all the time. My mask was gone.

A few weeks back I introduced to you a healing modality that has changed my life and the lives of my clients. The Emotion Code is a energy/kinesiology based technique that helps you to release trapped emotions quickly and easily. I've practiced it on myself, my family and several clients, and it is nothing short of miraculous in its effectiveness. I'm writing about it again because I've now had some time to see just how much change has come about in my own life.

For hundreds of years, the plants (flowers, shrubs, trees and herbs) that grow in gardens, forests and meadows have been used for magical purposes. Now that spring is officially upon us, In invite you to keep an eye out for some of the following flowers and think about how you could incorporate them into your life – for beauty, their scent or to simply add a little dash of magic into your day!

Back in December my family and I sold our home and we rented a big, beautiful house in upstate New York. But rather than being overjoyed and grateful for the opportunity to enjoy a fresh start, I went into one of the deepest depressions ever.

Imagine you’re outside, by a beautiful lake, enjoying the perfection of your surroundings. You feel comfortable, relaxed, as if you are an important part of it all. You are so in tune that it is as if you can hear nature speaking to you.

Today not only marks the end of the month and the challenge but is an exciting ending to a life season for me. Tomorrow morning, I will enter into a season of life I've never been in before: I will become a grandmother for the first time! I'm so excited I can hardly keep it together here! Until now, it had not really hit me like it is today. My life is going to change in some amazing physical and energetic ways when that precious little goddess breathes her first bit of oxygen tomorrow.