Your Weekly Dose Of Diva: Tales Of A Rule-Breaker

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Hello everyone! So, every week, I bare it all (well, maybe not all!) and let you in on my personal and professional aha of the week. That one thing that seems to be really up, not only for me, but also for my world and all the wonderful people in it…

Happy week! With the super moon lighting pretty much everything up, I’ve been having a week full of breakthroughs and happy clients…yes, I still (and probably will always) light up with glee when I get a message like this through cyberspace…”I can’t TELL you how much better I feel. Calmer, more centered, accepted. You are a magic and light worker. THANK YOU…”. I’ve also been having a bit of a delicious time doing some rule-breaking, but not the traditional kind…

Let’s talk about rules. Yes, I know…makes you want to yawn just thinking about it but hear me out. Over the last decade I have become quite a rule-breaker…not traditional rules like “thou shalt not steal” but all the rules we set for ourselves daily. Let me give you an example. When Diva my horse first came into my life I had an entire rule book on how being with a horse should look, how they should act, how a good horse behaved and so on. There was a heck of a lot of self-imposed rules that I’d built up and internalized through my previous riding experience and things I’d learned in childhood and beyond. Thankfully Diva was having none of that. It became apparent just a few weeks in (as I was throwing a hissy fit and wondering what on earth I’d done) that those rules did not apply to this gal. What we start to realize is that by applying these rules to our lives the potential for connection and deepening is intensely limited. If Diva had played by the rules or I had tried to make her, our relationship would look a whole lot different right now.

So what is a rule? I think of it as a line in the sand – one side is right, the other wrong. Obviously some rules are completely and totally necessary but others, well, not so much. The whole concept of rules implies that you are not particularly capable of making good decisions, that you need to be monitored and controlled, and ironically the monitor/judge is often ourselves. The problem is that these rules are innately self-limiting…stopping up natural expression and real freedom of being. They can also be intensely guilt-creating, our inner judge often reminding us about the “rule” that we just broke and how very “wrong” that was. Yuck!

[Tweet “The great thing about rules is that when you start to see them they often just shift on their own! “]I want you to take a minute to get quiet. Let’s look at your inner rulebook (and it may just be massive and that’s ok). What rules do you apply to yourself on a daily basis and how are they serving you? (I’ll give you a more specific example from my rulebook. One of the ones that is still a work in progress is this one – “Everyone has to like me” ). Then, ask yourself, is this particular rule serving me? Maybe parts of it are and parts of it aren’t. Maybe it is ready to be released completely. If it’s not serving, can I let I begin the process of letting it go? Breath into that new awareness…a full deep breath to shine some light on this part of you.

The great thing about rules is that when you start to see them they often just shift on their own! The other great thing? Life starts to feel a whole lot freer! All of sudden you can let that beautiful inner guidance of yours start running the show rather than being wrapped up and chained in all the “shoulds”, “have-tos” and “good and bads.” If I take my rule of “everyone has to like me” as an example, can you start to imagine the freedom that naturally flows in when that shifts? All of a sudden life takes on a whole new level of expression when we stop worrying so much about how our actions are going to affect others! So, this week I am taking a whole lot of breaths into that one and getting some BodyTalk on it. I’ll keep you posted on how its feeling 🙂

Ok, I would love to hear what you notice! What rules have you been playing by? And how does it feel to have a look at those and even let them go??

To your fabulousness,

Alexa

PS. If you want to watch me in action and get in on the BodyTalk fun (side effects of sessions = relaxation, more fun, more joy and a whole lot of laughter cuz I’m silly like that), make sure to join me for my next Bonfire Session. It’s a totally free BodyTalk session over Spreecast (meaning you can join in from anywhere in the world) at 6:30pm PDT this Thursday August 14th. Head here to register.